WHEN “NO” MEANS “YES”!
What could be more positive and unconditional than the love your pet shows you? An animal (just like a person) is operating by and from birth with its original positive nature, knowing that all is good in every way. For an animal “no” actually means a big “yes”. They do not understand the negative side of things until a person connects the word to an abusive action, temper, or physical anger that is targeted toward the animal when an animal shows an unwanted behavior.
In essence, the actual word “no” does not carry a behavioral command for one’s pet. The anger, loud voice, threatening posture, water spraying, or yanking of a collar, is the activity that gives “no” the threat, hurt or warning to end an activity. Ever see a dog on a couch or chair that stays there while its person (or maybe you?) shouts at it “No, no, you are not allowed on the couch!!!” The dog just freezes, shakes or cowers but stays in the same place? The dog is simply trying to follow its person’s wishes. What an animal is actually hearing is “Yes, yes you are not allowed on the couch!” Confusing and upsetting for both animal and person.
Watch out, those baffling signals from you to your pet can and does physical and emotional harm to both of you, resulting in challenging fur folk behavioral issues and imbalances. An animal may react to not knowing what they can do to please their people by becoming “pissed off” and frustrated. They could release their confusion and fears by going to the bathroom in inappropriate places.
A suggestion to my human clients to help their pets understand what is inappropriate and appropriate behavior is to first accept that animals do not understand that there is anything wrong in the first place. “No” is just not in an animal’s vocabulary.
Animals want to please their people. A balanced animal will never want to hurt their person. A better way of letting an animal know what you don’t want is to always tell your pet what you want rather than what you feel they are doing wrong. When you want a dog to not be on the couch, tell him straight out that his bed and space is on the ground and that your space is on the couch. This means no more inviting your dog into your lap while you are on the couch…
Tell your animal “yes” by telling them how you want them to act, what is totally theirs, what makes you happy, and what behavior could be hurtful to you. Always tell them that the offensive behavior is totally unacceptable, followed by how you want them to behave. Fido or Fluffy is a natural chi master who knows how to bring total positive energy into your life. It’s time to train yourself to let only your “yes”; your love and positive energy, to set structure and balance for you, your pet, and your home.
Keep the good fur chi flowing!
I’m Paula Brown; animal communicator / author / feng shui practitioner, I “unstick stuck” energies. With my telepathic and energetic modality talents I bring both pets and their people back into balance and joy by discovering the heart or core of an out of balance health, emotional, and environment issue. Healing the “cause” is my passion to ignite understanding, love, abundance and harmony for my clients.